Heal the wounds beneath your struggles and become who God created you to be.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) coaching rooted in the Catholic faith for men seeking freedom from pornography, anxiety, shame, and self-sabotage.
You don't need more willpower. You need to understand the parts of you that are carrying pain, protecting old wounds, and keeping you stuck.
Through Internal Family Systems and a deeply human approach to healing, I help Catholic men move from survival to freedom.
Founder of The Catholic Gentleman • Licensed Professional Counselor • IFS Level 2 Trained • Bestselling Author
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NEW: Men’s IFS Coaching Circle: Stop fighting yourself. Start understanding yourself.
Most men don't need more shame or more willpower. They need healing.
Applications are now open for a small founding cohort of The IFS Men's Coaching Circle. Limited to 12 men. Deadline to register July 15.
Why Good Men Stay Stuck
You know what you should do. You've read the spiritual books. You’ve prayed.
You've listened to the podcasts. You've made promises to yourself and to God.
Yet somehow you find yourself returning to the same struggles:
Pornography
Anxiety
Emotional disconnection
Anger
Self-sabotage
Shame
Lack of purpose
The problem isn't a lack of discipline.
The problem is that parts of you learned long ago how to survive pain—and they are still running the show.
The Behavior Is Not The Problem
Most approaches focus on stopping unwanted behaviors by white knuckling it or forcing yourself.
I focus on understanding them.
Every behavior serves a purpose.
The angry part.
The avoidant part.
The porn-using part.
The perfectionistic part.
None of these parts are your enemy. They are trying—often unsuccessfully—to protect something deeper.
When those deeper wounds begin to heal, change becomes possible. Not through force, but through transformation.
“Nothing is so strong as gentleness; nothing is so gentle as real strength.” - St. Francis de Sales
Coaching for Men Who Are Ready for More
I work best with men who:
✓ Feel stuck despite sincere effort
✓ Struggle with pornography or compulsive behaviors
✓ Carry unresolved childhood wounds
✓ Feel disconnected from themselves, God, or others
✓ Want deeper emotional freedom
✓ Desire greater purpose and direction
✓ Are ready to move beyond merely managing symptoms
Ready for Change?
About Me
For years, I helped build one of the largest online communities for Catholic men through The Catholic Gentleman. Along the way, I discovered that many men knew what they should do but remained trapped in anxiety, shame, pornography, and self-destructive patterns.
As a licensed psychotherapist and IFS practitioner, I now help men heal the wounds beneath those struggles so they can experience lasting freedom, deeper relationships, and a renewed sense of purpose.
Coming Soon
The Path to Wholeness: An IFS Coaching Program to Heal Porn Addiction
Most men try to fight pornography with willpower, shame, and self-control alone.
It works for a while.
Until stress hits.
Or loneliness.
Or exhaustion.
Then the cycle returns.
Not because you’re weak.
And not because you’re beyond help.
But because something deeper is driving the behavior.
The Path to Wholeness is a 12-week coaching experience designed to help men understand the internal patterns beneath pornography addiction, heal the wounds fueling the cycle, and reclaim a life of integrity, clarity, and freedom.
